Public baths have been around for a long time here. Asian Americans more often noted that their moms helped them with homework or pushed them to succeed. There is more emphasis on the child's needs than in earlier times. Locke and others wrote about child development during the enlightment and there were incipient studies of child development and baby diaries kept in the Victorian age. Do you agree that Eastern parents need to use demeaning names for the child to understand what they did wrong and correct it, or is there another way? I believe that democratic style is best because there is a balance.
Compared to Western parents, Chinese parents spend approximately 10 times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children. We see the value in intrinsic motivation and natural consequences. And somehow I survived and became successful in life in spite of that. That is my two cents. Kids are molded by how parents treat their kids, and the parenting style.
Third, Chinese parents believe they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children's own desires and preferences. I don't agree with Chua. I grew up surrounded by family that only spoke about getting the best education, so that when we grow up we would be someone who carries on the family name, be someone who is renowned, that pronounced that whatever we were to thrive for throughout our lives, to make the best out of it. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. It states that children learn from their parents, but parents don't learn from them.
As you can see, it is fraught with joy and frustrations! You, as a parent, have to develop that stable relationship with your child and getting them to be open to that may be hard. This makes what was once just hard work is now fun. We didn't stand over them as they did homework. However, having high expectations for your child does not seem wrong to me. American secondary educational facilities require an equal balance of grades and being involved in after school activities and charities.
A limitless freedom given to children can lead them to choosing the wrong paths. I am not Chinese or Chinese-American; however, I grew up in a household that I would definitely call strict following many of the rules the author sets forth for her children. I believe that a balance has to be struck. I suppose I find myself right in the middle. Why has the relationship between parents and children traditionally been viewed as unidirectional? But being a good parent depends upon our own skills and approach.
In the first place, you have to ask how well the grading system actually measures intelligence. Ms Chua, in an interview, states that she is married to an american jewish professor who was raised in a more laid back home, but reached equal success. Unless by some quirk of fate that their children have developed a healthy spirituality, somewhere down the road, the kids are bound to have an existential crisis when they realize that the lives they are leading are not necessarily the lives they want to live. Parker, Stanford News Service: 650 725-0224,. They emphasis on developing the skills of kids without forcing them to do so. For instance, a preschool teacher recounts how she scolded some Haitian-American kids for crossing a parking lot without her.
Garcia F and Gracia E. Scientists are trying to unravel the cultural and psychological reasons behind it. Wang Qian, a professor of psychology at Chinese University and Hong Kong, and Eva Pomerantz, professor of psychology at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, have both spent years studying the effect of different parenting techniques on children's development and comparing the differences of Chinese and Western parents. But how does this compare with authoritarian parenting? Children do need structure and there is no accurate manual on raising your children because as stated here children have very much so different personalities. For rich homes it could be the opposite and the man is doing his financial part for the family. And what makes authoritarian parenting different from other approaches to child-rearing? It seems to make an important difference to children. I think trying to connect with your child emotionally and gaining their trust may the most difficult responsibility.
The New York Times Company, 16 Jan. I have a feeling you have done a superb job raising your 3 beautiful children, Barrie…. It would be interesting to hear from Chinese young adults who have recently emerged from this strict parenting model to see how they feel now that they have some perspective. She was not overly oppressive and did not sugar coat everything. For example, my parents have both always wanted what was best for me and wanted me to do what made me happy, but there is a twist to both of their meanings behind it. These are segregated by gender of course, but at home kids usually shower with everyone, including grandparents.